TIPS FOR THOSE BEGINNING THE DIVORCE PROCESS

  1. Watch your alcohol intake;
  2. Watch what you put on social media;
  3. Watch what you say to counselors (if you could be in a custody battle, what you say to a counselor can be used against you);
  4. Watch what you say to friends (there is no privilege);
  5. Watch what you say to or in front of your kids (don't say negative things about your spouse, no matter how tempting);
  6. Watch feeling sorry for yourself:

    Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality. -John Gardner

    Self-pity is the sworn enemy of your ambition. It is the number one killer of your aspirations and goals. Give it a foothold in your life and you will chase away every dream dreamt and every friend befriended. -Jason Versey

    Self-pity in the long run does not work -paraphrase of quote by Gary Paulson

    You'll do well if you don't mire in self pity. Self pity only gets you more of the same. Don't waste your time on it. -Robin Hobb

  7. Take pictures of all of the contents of your house (You can't prove loss of an item unless you prove to a judge that the item existed);
  8. Collect copies of important papers (e.g. three years' tax returns and all attachments, 12 months of bank statements for all accounts, 12 months of credit card statements for all accounts);
  9. Screen shot all important texts between you and your spouse; and
  10. Get an email account and a cell phone account that your spouse does not have access to.