TIPS FOR THOSE BEGINNING THE DIVORCE PROCESS
- Watch your alcohol intake;
- Watch what you put on social media;
- Watch what you say to counselors (if you could be in a custody battle, what you say to a counselor can be used against you);
- Watch what you say to friends (there is no privilege);
- Watch what you say to or in front of your kids (don’t say negative things about your spouse, no matter how tempting);
- Watch feeling sorry for yourself.
“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” – John Gardner
“Self-pity is the sworn enemy of your ambition. It is the number one killer of your aspirations and goals. Give it a foothold in your life and you will chase away every dream dreamt and every friend befriended.” – Jason Versey
” Self-pity, in the long run, does not work.” – paraphrase of a quote by Gary Paulson
“You’ll do well if you don’t mire in self-pity. Self-pity only gets you more of the same. Don’t waste your time on it.” – Robin Hobb
- Take pictures of all of the contents of your house (You can’t prove loss of an item unless you prove to a judge that the item existed);
- Collect copies of important papers (e.g. three years’ tax returns and all attachments, 12 months of bank statements for all accounts, 12 months of credit card statements for all accounts);
- Screenshot all important texts between you and your spouse; and
- Get an email account and a cell phone account that your spouse does not have access to.